Accept that you are a bit low, sad, moody, whatever you want to call it. Don’t gaslight yourself. It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to be moody.
Take a shower. Bless hot showers.
low iron chicas, watch out for the fall in blood pressure though – yes, I almost fainted last night and had a quick run to the pharmacy this morning to grab some iron supplements.
Cold showers to change the temperature or to bring back your blood pressure levels.
I am sorry if you relate to this.
If you can’t take a full body shower, splash cold water on your face – at least 5 times.
After shower, do some sensory checks. Are you too hot, too cold? Are you able to moderate the temperature? Is the light in the room bright or dim? Can you change it to what feels good or okay? Any noise that you can cut off or use headphones. Are you being attacked by mosquitoes and the itching is annoying you? Can you do anything about it. Do you have a mosquito repellant?
Eat something. Even if you don’t think you are hungry. No really, get up and make yourself an egg sandwich, milk with cereal, or if you trust the delivery app and the restaurant, order your favourite comfort food.
Cry if you can.
Rewatch your favourite show.
Reach out to your chicas for support.
Don’t text those who will make this state worse (ex partners and close family members). Now is not the time.
Journal. Start writing ‘I am sad’ x100 if you need to.
Let the words flow.
Drink one full glass of water. All of it.
Make yourself a cup of chai.
talk to yourself for an hour on a video
say “i love you” to yourself x100, and give yourself a big hug. kiss your hands, your arms, your biceps, your shoulders. give yourself love the way you would love a significant other, a friend, a family member when they are sad
delete whatever “short form content” app (instagram, TikTok, etc) you have on your phone for at least a few hours. If you really need it, you will figure out a way to install it again. _doom scrolling right now is a big no.
_we are big fans of intentional scrolling here and sending memes to your chicas and having a laugh, but don’t expose yourself to multitude of new information at this point. It won’t do you any good. Any new information may trigger any old wounds or unresolved issues. You will start spiralling out of control.
no bueno.
Do you need to take some time for yourself? disconnect from outside world, including social media?
Whatever problem was occupying your brain space before the mood shift, do not attempt to resolve it now. I repeat, do not attempt to find a solution. Now is not the time. Your decisions will be driven by impulse, rather than intuition.
If you did make an impulsive decision though, let it be. If I know you as well as I know myself, it’s most probably an irreversible decision, what’s done is done. Face the consequences next day.
Give yourself a big hug.
Give yourself an orgasm.
Sleep, if it’s already night time. You won’t be productive today.
Day time? Put on your cutest dress, find a cafe that’s at least 15 minutes away. Walk to the cafe, order your favourite drink, take out your journal and look cute while journaling.
Don’t feel like heading out? Sample some songs from your “moody day playlist”
( yes you should probably start making one right away) and let your body wiggle, shake, sway, roll.
No matter what your thoughts are telling you right now, remind yourself that you are loved. You are love and I fucking love you.
p.s. your chica 💋